Blog 9

     This quote here I had found on the website called ShoutWire, a site where people comment and view about women’s movement/feminist. This comment was made by a man in retrospect to a woman’s comment.

     “Men make the rules, build everything, develop everything, control most of the money, grow the food, and fight the wars. Show me a successful matriarchal society and I’ll blow myself. That being said, equality should mean equal opportunity. Women have that and more. In a realistic world, it’d be 50cents to the dollar. Men throw the extra 35 cents in case you’ve got tits.”

     After I had read his comment I see why it is hard for women to be treated respectably and given the credentials that we deserve. He clearly states that men basically do everything. Well of course they do, because every time we want to express our voice and ideas we get shot down. There can never be a successful matriarchal society because we never had given the chance. Today there are many matriarchal women who are single mothers that are the head of family and are recognized by their community and other people. Its men like this guy here with his ignorant thoughts and comments that make us so inferior to them and society. I believe if we were given the chance to be treated equal and that is equal opportunity, equal rights and equality; women might build a better society then men. They always have to make gender remarks about our sex characteristics to disrespect us as a female, by saying, “Men throw in the extra 35 cents because we have tits.” Seriously men never grow up. This type of attitude and ignorance is what make it hard for women to earn the respect we deserve.

Blog 8

Blog 8

     Introduction to women studies has been interesting and enjoying. I have learned a lot from the chapter readings. I look at women’s life as how black men are treated in society. Women are being taken advantage of just about anywhere. Example men have this judgment about women’s knowledge on cars. Most men think women have no knowledge about cars, so women are told many false things that are wrong with their car. Unequal pay because of sex, a woman’s place is in the kitchen, domestic chores are women’s job and so on… Many of the topics have me thinking about life and the many different obstacles that are out in the world to test and stop women from achieving their goals.

     This has proven how scared, weak and evil men could be over power and control. They feel the need to be on top and be dominant because this is what they are taught and built to do. In my view, the ones that have power and control are women. We endured many pain and sufferings. We pick ourselves up when we are down. We used to need men to help us bring home the bread, now we do it ourselves and also care for family members in the home. There many single mothers out there that work hard go to school and come home to care for their children and maintaining a house hold without the help or present of a man. This goes to prove how strong women are, even from the beginning and we will not stop. But reading about women rights and the events that happened before my time and to present; has made me realized that I am glad to be a woman and to be a part of this unequal justice that is created by men.

Blog 7

Some people may not think that America is the best place to live, and it may not be. But I am glad to live in America, then in countries where women are used for sex slaves, tortured, abused, and disrespected. American women may not be treated equally such as getting equal pay, sex discrimination and viewed to be inferior in society; but these things are not visible to the conscious mind. We may not be physically abuse by men, but unconsciously they try. We have strong American women who fought for our voices to be heard and our rights to be treated equally. The women in our past who fought for us have been threaten, beaten and killed so that women in present day can have the freedom and rights that we do.

                Some countries view women as inferior and have no purpose in life except to be slaves, sex slaves, and bare children. Like China, they kill off female babies if they are first born, because they believe that it is more honorable to have a son as first born or only sons so they can carry their father’s last name. I don’t understand why a man’s last name is so power that it can control parents to kill of their baby girls. Also China is over populated mainly of men, but Chinese citizens are only allowed to have two children per household.  The article I had read said, that parents throw their murdered baby girls into the dumpster, streets, garbage and curb. Since when did human beings become so evil and heartless to kill their babies, another living and breathing human being?

Blog 6

In my opinion, every society needs some type of order and along with order there is control. Without order and control people would do as they please and will cause harm to others. I agree that we need social order to a certain extent to keep society running smoothly. But I don’t agree in the control of surveillance of camera at work, tracking a person’s whereabouts by using records from credit card, ATM machines or surveillance cameras, because that is intruding into one’s personal privacy and that right is taken away from us. The reading of credit card purchases through the internet, storing private information in large databases such as credit bureaus, banks and marketing companies can contribute to identity theft. Long before computers and other advance technology arrived; identity theft was not a big issue. Our country is not the best country in the world, but American citizens who live in the U.S like to believe we do. When someone talks trash about U.S, the American people will stand up for their country. The United States is a great country, in my opinion because the country where I came from is ruled by Anarchy and the people are living in poverty. I am considered to be low class in America, but when I look at my family in Cambodia they are living in poverty. The country has no jobs, healthcare or agencies that will help the needy when they are in need of assistance. America might not be the best place in the world, but it is better than some other countries.

Blog 5

What is beauty? Well beauty is define as something that is pleasing to look at or physically attractive. Who determines what is beautiful or not? What if someone or something is pretty to some people and not to others? In my opinion beauty is in the eye of the beholder; he or she determines what is pleasing or attractive to their own personal tastes.

What is ugly? Ugly is define as something or someone that is unappealing or unattractive. Who determines what is ugly or not?

These are all one’s personal opinion and interests of likes and dislikes.  Some women think tall and skinny men are attractive and some women don’t.

What is fat? Fat is defined as having a body weight greater than what is considered desirable. Well what is desirable to some people may not be desirable to another. How fat is fat? Are you considered to be fat if you are 10 pounds over your ideal weight?

What is skinny? Skinny is defined as very thin, especially in an unappealing or unhealthy way. So society puts this image in women that skinny is beautiful and healthy; but if you are too skinny then you become unattractive and unhealthy too.  

All this labeling of beauty is nonsense. People should accept themselves for who they are; not everybody is built the same way. We all come in different shapes and sizes. This is what makes us unique from everybody else. It would be a boring world if everybody is the same. We should start living and enjoying life than worrying about what society considers skinny and beautiful should look like.

Blog 4

Sexual Desire and Gender in this article it mentioned that “some people will have sex only if they are positively in love, for fun or just to satisfy their desires.” I believe what you do sexually is your business. How often you choose to have sex, whom you choose to be sexually active with is nobody’s concern. No one has the right to judge you, threatened you or make fun of you. But people are driven to judge and to be ignorant towards the things they don’t know and understand. Each and every one of us has been taught different morals, values and beliefs. I was taught not to have sexual relationship until I am married and not to have children out of wed-lock. Although, my life did not go that way as my parents taught me; does that make me a bad, slutty and promiscuous person? No, I believe things happened because of my own irrational decisions. The choices I made at the time were bad choices and now I learned from the mistakes and apply it to my everyday life.

Some people may be sexually active and are called hyper sexual or even a nympho, but these people may have an illness that they don’t know they have. I don’t judge a book by its cover, so I definitely don’t judge people before I get to know them. I teach my children that nobody is perfect; there are all types of flaws out there as the same with peer pressure. I tell my kids to never think irrationally and to be a leader and make the right decisions without the pressure and bad influences from your friends and family.

Blog 3

Gender and sex they both go hand in hand. You cannot have one without the other. If you are male society has labeled you to be strong, masculine, active, and a stud. You wear the pants in the family. Your wife and children look up to you as the man of the house and financial provider. You portray yourself as a strong man and you do manly activities; such as play or watch sports and drink beer with the guys. As for women society labels them as caring, nurturing, passive, sensitive, bitchy and feminine. As a wife you are supposed to obey and honor your husband, take care of the children, cook and clean around the house. You are to represent yourself as a respectable woman.

These are the two categories that society labels men and women. For everyone else who are caught in between having male and female genitalia are considered as abnormal. Society rejects these people because they are considered to be inferior and have no place in society. I feel bad for these people because not only they have enough to deal with everyday life’s stress they are stuck in between an identity crisis. So they feel ashamed, confused and lost. It’s almost the same scenario to people who have diverse ethnicity.

I feel like society is a big cage that everyone is caught inside of it and it is controlling us to think what is normal and abnormal. How women and men should act and what kind of toys boys and girls can play with. I don’t think the kind of toys boys and girls play with affects their gender. My daughter plays with cars, trucks, and blocks. She has plenty of “girly” toys she can play with but she prefers to play with cars and trucks over dolls. I believe people should be who they want to be if that’s what they are comfortable with. Nobody is perfect; we all go through some type of identity crises in our life time. People can through many identity crises such as our gender, our career, age and success.

Blog 2

Why do single mothers have it so hard?

 I have a three year old daughter who takes up most of my time. I am currently waiting for Can-I to accept us for day care assistance and right now the only person I can turn to for help is her father.  But I literally have to beg and jump over hoops for him so he can help me watch his own daughter. All that I ask from him is one day of break from her a week on his days off.  This allows me to study, catch up or work ahead on my homework. So when I asked him to take her for one day his response to me is, “I do have things I need to do too on my days off Sara!” Seriously, with that remark and the ignorant tone in his voice had me in tears because I was so mad!

 I don’t think that it is fair for single mothers to be the main caretaker of her children when parent splits up. Why do men have the freedom to walk away and not take half of the responsibility for their children? The only thing they have to do is pay child support and that is if they do it. Other than that most of these fathers feel that they do not need to do anything else. Sure the court system may order visitation rights for the father to come see or take their child/children every other weekend, but that does not happen all the time. They will visit or take their child/children when they feel like it or when it is convenient to them.

My point is it does not matter what you are, where you go, and what you do “Feminism” is all around us. Women will always be taken for granted and treated unfairly. Men really do need to take a second look at women and take us seriously, because we are much stronger and smarter than they underestimated us to be. Of course we have to crawl before we can walk and jump through hoops and obstacles before we can be heard and become successful. Now a day there are many powerful women out there like Oprah Winfrey, Hillary Clinton and Sara Palin just to name a few that may have been through what I am going through. These women fought their way to power and success.

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